I have to admit, the internet can be a scary place. Anybody who has
ever dared had an opinion on anything - whether it's regarding the
color of Angelina Jolie's dress or the competence of the latest presidential
candidates - has probably experienced some sort of cyber bullying. You know
what I'm talking about. Somebody leaves a hateful comment on your post, or
someone says something mean to you on Twitter. Sound like a
surface-level problem? In many cases, it is. But for public figures? Not
so much.
Any
public figure, from author to athlete, has become a target for online
harassment. I've been lucky because I haven't experienced too much
negativity online (I have a big base of loyal and loving fans), but I have been
the victim of some pretty cruel comments by people who probably live in their
parents' basement, gleaning a meager sustenance from animal crackers and mountain dew.
Hmmm,
did that sound a little harsh? It should. I often find myself irritated that
anybody, anywhere in the world, can log into any site and start talking about
anyone. They can start horrible rumors (twitter, anyone?), post fake pictures
(hello, Photoshop), and send you cruel letters (thank your email inbox for that
one). But perhaps the question is this: here in America, we have freedom of
speech, so if people want to post something stupid online, it’s their right,
correct? Unfortunately, I fear that we’ve cultivated a culture of narcissists
who sit at home and pound out their opinions on a keyboard, post it online, and
then go back to real life.
I’ve
had people tell me that they couldn’t stand me. I’ve had people call me stupid.
I’ve had people say that I really had no business writing survivalist fiction
because I’m a young female (please tell me how that even makes sense?). Another
insisted that I was a horrible writer who had no grasp of the English language
– and how dare I call myself a writer! One fellow even went so far as to
insinuate that I was no more intelligent than a monkey. I’ve been ripped up and
beat up in the digital world by those few, morally unattractive souls known as
the internet “trolls.”
Hmm. Does my old author photo make me look "too girly" to write survivalist fiction? Don't think so! |
Authors,
when they get to a certain point of notoriety, become targets for hateful
comments. I have found that there is never any rhyme or reason for the
meanness. Some people are just that: mean.
They don’t have a reason. That’s just the way they are, and the internet just
makes that part of human nature more personal – more public. People enjoy shock
value. If they hurt someone along the way, they don’t care. They feel powerful.
Unfortunately for them, they’re just hiding behind a keyboard. People like that
aren’t brave…they’re just bullies.
So
are authors the victims of bullying? To a degree, I’d say yes. But let’s
remember that everybody, at some point in his or her life, has been a victim of
bullying. Can you think of a time anyone has ever said something hurtful or
manipulative to you? Of course you can! The problem has gotten incredibly out
of hand because of the internet. People log in, spit out vitriolic behavior,
and log out again. It has robbed our society of accountability. You wouldn’t
stand in the middle of a bookstore and shout out a horrible, degrading
commentary about a well-known author at the top of your lungs. But people do it
all the time online. What makes it different? Like I said, there are no
consequences, so it’s free game, and the trolls come out from under the bridge
and stir up trouble.
I
think it’s important for authors to remember that for every mean comment, there
are five thousand pleasant ones. The negativity is always the minority. With my
Collapse Series and Zero Trilogy, I’ve got a massive reader and fan base whom I
adore. I’m very blessed. I’m just saying that it is a problem.
Just
recently, well-known author Cassandra Clare left her twitter account because of
hateful comments that were being tweeted to her when fans weren’t happy about
the casting of the Mortal Instruments television show. It was so intense, she
couldn’t take it anymore, and had to log out for good. I think that’s so sad!
People don’t need to be mean. There is no reason for it. Opinions used to be
something that you discussed with your family or friends over dinner – not an
incendiary public announcement that circulates to millions of people.
So
what is my point? First, people can be mean. That’s just a fact. (Insert Taylor
Swift’s Mean here). Second, for
authors like myself, the best way to deal with that is to ignore it. We have to
stay the course. With the internet comes both good and bad, and learning to
deal with the bad is the best way to enjoy the good. I encourage authors to
turn their backs on negativity, to ignore it completely. Engaging with a troll
is bad news. It just hurts your feelings and gives them attention. Keep it to
yourself. Vent to your husband or wife or friends. But don’t respond online,
because that brings you down to that level.
Most
of all: KEEP WRITING.
It’s easy to get lost in the frenetic blur of online
excitement, but it’s important to remember that staking your self-worth in the
approval of others isn’t wise. It’s not wise in the real world, and it’s
certainly not wise online. Value yourself. Believe in yourself. Keep your chin
up, and never stop what you’re doing. Mean people are angry people, so don’t be
that way. Be happy, and stay the course.
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